life's not very kind to some of my friends now so i can only hope that they pull through this episode. we all have our moments of weakness and it's important to acknowledge this fact and ask others for help when needed.
on a brighter note, i have approx 27 days left for practicum not counting today. 27. u have no idea how i long for the end of these 27 days. wrong, i'm just counting 20 actually because that will be the essential end of teaching the o level syllabus for now. haha. i'll be heading over to mi after practicum and the hod has already gotten in touch with me. i feel like i will probably enjoy life over there. hopefully opportunity presents itself over there. striving to make an impact once i join the force. i dont want to float through it.
we all have goals and ambitions. but what makes us construct these targets. i realise that sometimes we need to focus on the underlying desires and feelings in order to live a happier life. i may have been a little too myopic in the past, just merely focusing on one goal or an objective. but the truth of the matter is that, in fulfilling one of these goals, i subconsiously satisfy a deep rooted desire that is usually of a broader category. for example, let's say person A wants very badly to get married. and if he does. then he feels happy. because he satisfies his desire for companionship. or for love. or for fulfilling his percieved responsibility to his parents. etc. the interesting thing is that if he doesnt get married then, he tends to feel the exact opposite. Unfulfilment of these goals tends to get people depressed and downtrodden. However, if one were able to focus, instead, on the underlying desires, then one will be awarded with a larger pool of objectives to fulfil which can lead to contentment. so for the guy who seeks companionship for instance rather than intamacy, then marriage does not become the only possible path to take. routes open up and the chance to make oneself happy increases. haha.
haha. i think it will take a little bit of rewiring on my part to adapt to this but i think in the long run if i am able to constantly look and reflect in this manner, i might be better able to lead a happier and more fulfilling life. i hope all my frens have that opportunity as well.
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hmm... i beg to differ (as always with regards to this topic)... hehe. companionship exists in various forms, just like relationships. it can be a 25% kinda companionship which u get with ur frens where u only meet say once a wk/mth cos of various commitments. or it can be a 90 - 100% kinda companionship where u know that that person's heart is with u most of the time. i believe the latter exists only in an intimate relationship as in bgr/marriage. so i guess it depends on which level fulfils ur inner desire for companionship. hey.. if u're satisfied with just 25%, yup... marriage is not a necessity then!
haha... of course i agree with you... haha what i am saying is that essentially one should look at the bigger picture... instead of looking at getting married as the end goal.. perhaps one might be better of looking at why one wants to get married in the first place... and yes it varies from individual to individual... haha...
it's like wanting a pen but not realising that you just want something that you can write with and that a pencil might do... haha...
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