Saturday, February 04, 2006
i really hate it when i have to deal with an especially opinionated person... more so when we have opposing views... but really... thinking about it from a different perspective... i guess the only reason y i shun such interactions is cos i am one myself...
dun get me wrong... having opinions is not a bad thing... in fact.. i think it is the very basis to us being living breathing homosapients... but the extent to which we regard our own opinions and likewise that of other people... is really one of the defining characteristics of our personality... i really hate to admit this but... its true... i can probably fit into the mould of the exact kind of person that i would really hate to have a debate with... i used to be worse i think... in jc and in army where i would stand steadfast on my position and not budge occasionally even when obvious and fatal flaws in my argument were pointed out... i guess it sort of stems from the imaturity of me as an individual then... but i feel that perhaps the way we deal with our opinions and likewise that of other people's... has a deeper more fundamental root than that...
the intrinsic 'need' to be right and perhaps the desire to see ur 'opponent's' views crumble before urself... are possibily the main reasons for such behaviour... so naturally guys tend to be more guilty of being more assertive about the way they view things... it's sort of a cultural thing that affects guys more than girls i suppose... we somehow feel the need to protect our image especially amongst the people we know or work with... so when we choose to outwardly express an opinion on something... we have already made a commitment to ourselves to defend it (or die trying)... it's the sort of testosterone induced brainlessness that really defines us as guys... being wrong results in loss of face and makes u appear weak.... a primitive sort of mechanism that works (or used to work) in the days when men carried clubs and went out hunting for game before returning home with dinner... like many of our other mamal brethern... we still feel the need to be the alpha male in a pack and not play second fiddle to anyone else... i guess in some sense our behaviours are affected by evolution in someways (or maybe the lack thereof)... even though we have developed sophisticated cultures and even more complex human-human interactions than was possible 10000 years ago... we still retain the primal and savage traits our ancestors eons ago needed to ensure their survival...
but really... is it relevant in our society now? does having one's point of view smashed destryoed and obliterated in ur face really damage one's social standing or maybe even one's eligibility? hahai dunno but i shall stop myself here... before i ramble too much... haha maybe later.... hahah
{11:03 AM}
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